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March 8, 2010

Women’s Love/Hate Relationship with the Media – Part 4, The Mirror

It’s definitely good to maintain high standards. After all, especially when it comes to your body, health & skin, you want to be the best you can be.

The problem: The best YOU can be is not the same as the best I can be.  We’re all different, but like in the many episodes of “Seinfeld,” both George and Jerry are seen breaking up with women because they are a “low-talker,” another had “man-hands,” one used Jerry’s toothbrush, another had a weird toe. These women got the axe because they didn’t meet the impossible standards of these comical and neurotic characters.

As we women (who have a love/hate relationship with the media) know, these sitcoms, movies and advertisements really do set standards high.

Did you watch the Academy Awards? At 46-years-old Demi Moore is the very image of age-defying beauty – (but it’s no secret that Mrs. Kutcher has indulged in the odd nip tuck over the years).   In a bizarre real-life case of the Benjamin Button effect, Demi seems to have aged backwards.  Stepping out on stage Demi’s face, body and skin appeared plumper, tighter and smoother than it has in years.

Would you say she is the best SHE can be?   I would say ‘yes’.  She can afford it.  But all of us fellow 47 year olds now have to work really hard on feeling good about the best ‘WE’ can be (knowing that if we stood next to Demi we’d look like her mother!).

The media . . . love/hate. . . do I have to say more?

March 4, 2010

Women’s Love/Hate Relationship with the Media – Part 3, Women in the Bedroom

Have you experienced this scenario?:

You and your partner are walking, hand in hand, down the street or in a mall.  The chit-chat is casual.  All of sudden, your partner’s gaze looks up and turns sideways as he views the manikins in the window of a lingerie store.  In fact, yours does too!

Has the media made the sexy female body too hard to measure up to? Or, do we like it this way because it serves as a motivation for us women to stay in the best shape we can?

The following question was asked to Drew Pinsky, MD, the straight-shooting co-host of Loveline, a two-hour radio show on sex and relationships:

For men, what’s the difference between okay sex and great sex?

Dr. Drew:   Well, it is about how the woman looks to the man. It’s who he’s with that makes the difference…Men do a very, very careful evaluation of physicality…Men look at beauty in terms of genetic loading for fertility and health, although we’re not doing it consciously—because men almost never consciously want to have children.  So it’s things like facial symmetry and glowing skin, signs of good health and the ability to carry a child, that translate to attractiveness for a male. Very primitive stuff.

Then he rates, on a scale from 1 – 10, how important the following things are to a man:

A fit body? A woman who works out?

Dr. DrewThat’s an 8.

A woman who doesn’t feel good about her body?

Dr. DrewThat’s up there in the turnoff category:  7 or 8.

Read the full article here.

Now, I ask you. . . Is there an oxy-moron here?  We must have a fit body, facial symmetry, glowing skin, signs of good health and the ability to carry a child.  And, if we don’t measure up, God help us if we show any signs of not feeling good about that!

How do you feel the media has influenced the bedroom?  We’d love to know, so please comment!

And please check back next Monday for:  
Women’s Love/Hate Relationship with the Media 
Part 4 – The Mirror.

March 1, 2010

Women’s Love/Hate Relationship with the Media – Part 2, Women in the Boardroom

Do women in the boardroom face a double standard?  Do we have to be extra attentive to self-improvement to appear to be competent and recognized as effective?

Here are some comments that we’ve heard over the years regarding ‘self-improvement’ that are necessary for women to stay in the boardroom:

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  • Women need to learn a more positive approach to leading, encouraging others, thus being less bossy than men.
  • When it comes to women in the boardroom, clothes speak volumes. It takes only a few seconds for people you’ve never met to form perceptions about your female authority and  abilities by judging your attire.
  • Women need to learn skills that will bring positive and powerful emotion to the workplace, and be better relationship-builders and better communicators than men (and apparently we can do this because our brains are more networked for language).
  • Women need to learn alternative approaches to leading teams — encouraging more open discussion, cultivating talent and sharing credit.  In fact, it would behoove women to read books on inspirational motivation, intellectual stimulation and individualized consideration. Perhaps sitting at the middle of the conference table rather than at its head and saying, “We are all in this together and I am part of it”.

With all of this emphasis on self-improvement to become successful in the boardroom (and all of it is good, no doubt), are we spending so much time trying to ‘measure up’, that we actually never make it there in time to make a real change?

Wow! Learning how to have authority in a mostly male dominated position, is a subtle and far reaching issue, indeed.

And, we haven’t even touched on how a woman’s skin and hair is supposed to look in the boardroom (trust me, being in the skin care industry, we’ve seen and heard an earful)!

Are you in the boardroom?  Would you like to be?  Please share us your thoughts on what you think is necessary for a woman to stay there!

February 1, 2010

Accepting Our Imperfections – FINAL Part 5

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At least once a week, I don’t straighten my hair.  I have a heard of, what I like to call, a ‘multicontinent mane’.  It’s a plethora of Afro-Euro-Alien hairs that all have a mind of their own.  When someone sees me on my ‘natural hair day’ (I used to call it a ‘bad hair day’) it’s usually accompanied by a “Whoa – I didn’t know you had…. (pause to find a descriptive)….curly hair!”   Growing up, I hated the attention my full, crazy hair attracted. Throughout early church school years, when I was supposed to be praying for world peace (which I regularly do now), I would instead supplicate for either “black girl” or “white girl” hair. “Your choice, God!  Just get rid of this poodle perm my Afro- Euro-Alien blood has cursed me with. Amen.”

God had a much larger agenda, so hair drama followed me into high school.  Straight, parted-in-the-middle-with-a-hippie-headband was the trend, and to get the ‘look’, I’d spend hours literally ironing my hair on the iron board and that was after I had already rolled my hair on frozen orange juice cans and slept in them all night.  Of course, I’d seal the deal with Dippity Doo and Aqua Net.

Then the world turned on its axis . . .

The blow dryer was invented!

I do think its funny – the expressions I get on my natural hair days.  I appreciate how many crazy textures exist on my scalp – at least once a week I do.  I don’t call it a “bad hair day” anymore.  My granddaughter loves playing ‘in’ it.

Please tell us about your unique hair and how you have found fun ways to enhance its natural ‘mind of its own’.

January 25, 2010

Accepting Our Imperfections – Part 4

As a woman who has been blessed with ample curves from a very young age, I have watched my mother spend countless, frustrating hours trying to find flattering outfits. It is as if fashion designers are completely clueless as to what the plus sized woman is looking for. (After all, she couldn’t possibly be looking for the same thing that skinny women look for – right?) There were only two choices. If she wanted something colorful and fun, her choice was the largest and gaudiest of floral muumuus. If she needed something subtle and dressy – well – black was the only choice.

(And the fact that these same decision makers think it’s acceptable to label this clothing, “2X” or even the words “plus size” is an issue that really needs some discussion. . . )

But, my mother had class and she knew how to find classy clothes for her voluptuous body. She always envisioned herself at her best and found sexy ways to dress herself.

My mom is 84 years old now, barely walking with a walker and has breast cancer. She’s still a “plus size” (I really hate that term!). I guess you could say she has every reason to be depressed, but instead, every morning she looks into the mirror and says to herself: “I’m still alive and I’m still a woman!” Then, she proceeds to apply her lip gloss and tie her little scarf around her neck and pin her broche on her sweater. And, my 85 year old dad still swats her in her back-side when she passes by him.

I think Maya Angelou must have been referring to my mom when she said: “It’s the fire in my eyes, and the flash of my teeth, the swing in my waist, and the joy in my feet.” Or Mae West when she defined the word ‘curve’ as: “The loveliest distance between two points”.

To all of you beautiful big girls out there, we would love to hear where you like to shop, what your favorite article of clothing is and perhaps a few words about being sexy and voluptuous.

January 21, 2010

Accepting Our Imperfections – Part 3

My sister is eleven years older than me. I remember when I was a little girl, my dad made her a vanity, fancied with nooks and crannies for girly things, a huge mirror and a mirrored top to place fancy perfume bottles on. When my sister would leave in the morning to go to high school, I would play pretend at her vanity. She could probably tell that I got into her stuff, but she never complained.

I watched her take care of her skin and I learned how to take care of mine. I watched as she applied her makeup and I learned you don’t go out of the house without putting your ‘face’ on.

Yes, we called it the ‘face’ – the mask of makeup required for any self-respecting woman to be seen in public. The women in my family have clung to their individual versions of the ‘face’ as if survival depended on it. My daughters watched me do the same, and they too learned to cling to the ‘face.’

And then it happened… woman applying make up

My youngest daughter was in her first year of getting her RVT degree. The early mornings, long hours, tedious homework and late night job to help pay her way through college made the ‘face’ her least priority, and she parted ways with it for a while. Did it change who she is? No. Is she any less beautiful? No. Is she loved any less? No.

Conclusion? Makeup has little bearing on how others see us; it enhances our looks only by making us feel a certain way. And that’s ok.

SkinAgain, will be launching their Mineral Makeup line next month called Oxyplex – Oxygen Complexion, and since we don’t believe you need a mask to look like yourself, it has been carefully planned to be:

  1. Healthy for your skin with no parabens and less mica for low shimmer
  2. Packed with minerals and oxygen boosting ingredients
  3. Easy and quick to apply with great blendability
  4. Simple, all-natural colors that can be used all over the face – eyes, cheeks, lips, etc.
  5. More affordable than the leading mineral makeup brands

Do you apply the ‘face’ every morning and not go out of the house without it?

Please comment and tell us if you have any tricks that make your morning makeup ritual easy and / or fun!

January 18, 2010

Accepting our Imperfections – Part Two

As a teenager in the early 1970s, I had a small frame and breasts an average 34B.  Unlike my mother, who was very well endowed, I was petite.  Since it was the late part of the hippie generation, many times I went braless.  Everything was fine.

Years later, I became a breast-feeding mom of three children that were all born about a year apart…….bang-bang-bang.  And, since I faithfully breastfed each of them, you can imagine that after four years of continuous pregnancy and breastfeeding, my boobies resembled a collapsed Playtex® plastic bottle insert!  More affectionately termed: ‘pancakes’!

So, we’re talking about accepting our imperfections, right?  Well, I was just 25 years old, and this imperfection was totally unacceptable to me!  So, before breast implants were ever ‘in’, I was searching a surgical way to correct my frontal ‘pancakes’, especially after a concerned female stranger at my gym had the kahoonas to ask me “what happened to your breasts?”!!

Silicone was the only option back then, and I dove in.  That was 27 years ago.

Well, I got good mileage out of them, but three years ago the silicone began to crumble and scar tissue started to encapsulate and surround each piece of silicone.  A lumpy mess!  I had most of it removed (some of the pieces were impossible to remove) and saline implants replaced them.

Unfortunately, the scar tissue ‘mechanism’ in my body had gotten ‘turned on’, and now the saline implant on my left breast is completely encapsulated.  The maintenance on this thing; deep tissue massage to keep it soft, supplements and stretching exercises are a daily routine.  If I don’t keep up, it hurts and hinders the range of motion in my shoulder.

Recently, I learned of a revolutionary new system that involves the body’s own ability to break up adhesions (scar tissue), and so far I do see a subtle change for the good, so I’m going to continue with it.  Truth is, I like having a relationship with my cleavage!

My question is this:  What would you do?  Would get them removed and accept the imperfection of having ‘pancake’ boobies, or would you keep looking for a solution to have nice looking boobs?  A better question would be:  Do you know the solution to this problem?

Please comment!


January 14, 2010

Learn to Love Your Imperfections – A 5-Part Blog Series Part One

There’s nothing cute about my legs.  No matter how thin they are, no matter how much I work out, they seem ‘spongy’.  They’ve been like that my whole life.  I’m the guru of skin care, so I’ve tried everything topical, but it’s just an inherited trait.  The hemline has to be just right, and you’ll never see me in a miniskirt without some kind of hosiery!


I’ve told myself, “Sherrie, you should be happy you’ve got two legs to walk on.” I know that’s true, but it’s not so easy to digest. We’ve all been fed the same ideals. I’ve had a male companion tell me to my face, “You should do something about those thighs.”  I was devastated!

Over time some women learn to love their flaws.  Not me. I still look at my thighs in the mirror and shake my head. But I’ve learned something just as valuable: I have enough gorgeous friends to know that being pretty guarantees nothing—not confidence, not happiness, not love. I also know that a good man isn’t necessarily good-looking.

So these days, I concentrate on developing my best asset: my personality (my uneven breasts are a close second). Men may woo-woo my curvaceous colleague on the street, but when we get to the restaurant, the energy gravitates to me. I can feel it.  In the end, I may wish I had different thighs, but I like who I am as a person. And because I believe that there’s much more to me than my looks, other people believe it, too.

If this struck a cord with you, please comment and share with us how you’ve embraced what society terms an ‘imperfection’.


December 31, 2009

Skin Care Resolutions 2010

Simple changes to your skin care routine can make all the difference to your skin. These 10 easy resolutions will have you well on your way to clearer, healthier glowing skin.

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1. I will cleanse my face every night before going to sleep.

Take time every night to thoroughly cleanse your face, even if you don’t wear makeup. Doing so will help remove excess oil that may contribute to the development of blackheads, or clogged pores. And don’t forget about your neck, jaw line, and in front of and behind the ears. These are places commonly overlooked during cleansing.

2. I will stop exfoliating my skin with abrasive scrubs.

Thorough cleansing is good; vigorous scrubbing of the skin is not. Avoid abrasive scrubs, scrubbing pads, and rough washcloths if you have acne. Instead, use a soft cloth or your bare hands. If you feel you need more exfoliation, try an alpha hydroxy, salicylic, or glycolic acid product, which removes dead skin cells without abrasive ingredients. However, if you are using any prescription acne medications, such as Retin A, Azelaic acid, or Accutane, do not use any additional exfoliating products.

3. I will remember to do my skincare regimen every day.

Consistency is key in skincare. To get the results you’re looking for, you should do your skincare regimen everyday, or as directed. It’s easy to forget, especially when life gets busy. To help you remember, try using your products at the same time every day. Or get into the habit of applying your topical treatments at the same time that you do something else like just after brushing your teeth or as soon as you get home from work.

4. I will stop popping my pimples, or otherwise picking at my skin.

Popping pimples is bad for the skin. Every time you pop, squeeze, or pick at a blemish you run the risk of damaging the follicle wall and increase the chance of scarring. Picking at your skin will lengthen healing time and can push infected material deeper into the dermis. Remind yourself of that when you feel the need to squeeze a breakout.

5. I will get a facial at least four times a year.

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Prebook a seasonal facial today with your skin specialist. Ideally you should get a facial every month, but if you can’t, at least get one every three months. If it’s in your schedule, you’ll make time for it. Whether you need deep cleansing or deep moisturizing an esthetician can get better results than you can get at home. In addition, most day spas offer a number of peels and other procedures, such as microdermabrasion, that can deal with specific problems, like discolorations and sagging skin.

6. I will wear sunscreen every day

Sun exposure, even 15 minutes of it midday, can damage skin and lead to fine lines, discoloration and loss of elasticity down the road. These conditions age you before your time. Sun exposure is cumulative. That means you will not see today’s sun damage today. When you do see it, it will be too late. Experts suggest you wear a daily SPF of 15 and use SPF 30 if you’re skiing or at the beach.

7. I will throw away old makeup and skincare products.

Take some time to go through all cosmetics and skin care products. Recall when the item was purchased, or look for an expiration date. If there is no date, there are other signs it needs to be tossed out, like eye shadow that has oil build-up or is dusty. Pressed powders and bronzers are sanctuaries for oil, bacteria and dirt. If mascara feels clumpy and dry, throw it out. Mascara is best when used in three months. A quick smell test does the trick for lipstick: If it smells funny, toss it.

8. I will give my skin a boost with new products.Serums Gift Set Image

Try a new brand of cleanser, toner or moisturizer. If skin your skin looks dull, its time for a boost. Add a facial “serum” like SkinAgain oZ-tone to the routine, a product that’s more concentrated and not as heavy as lotions and moisturizers. It’s never too early to start using eye creams and gels.

9. I will put down the martini and the cigarettes!

This is probably the most important resolution to make. Excessive drinking and smoking leads to pre-mature aging. Free radicals and toxins released into the body break down essential vitamins and collagen that is produced naturally, thus leading to wrinkling of the skin.

10. I will exercise regularly.female_workout

Regular exercise can contribute to a radiant complexion. Working out can have dramatic results on your skin by reducing acne breakouts, getting rid of toxins, facilitating collagen production and nutrient delivery and increasing circulation.


December 17, 2009

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All you have to do is email info@skinagain.com with your story including tell us about the products you’ve used and the results you’ve seen.

The first 10 responses will receive a FREE nEu-tone product.


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