Have you experienced this scenario?:
You and your partner are walking, hand in hand, down the street or in a mall. The chit-chat is casual. All of sudden, your partner’s gaze looks up and turns sideways as he views the manikins in the window of a lingerie store. In fact, yours does too!
Has the media made the sexy female body too hard to measure up to? Or, do we like it this way because it serves as a motivation for us women to stay in the best shape we can?
The following question was asked to Drew Pinsky, MD, the straight-shooting co-host of Loveline, a two-hour radio show on sex and relationships:
For men, what’s the difference between okay sex and great sex?
Dr. Drew: Well, it is about how the woman looks to the man. It’s who he’s with that makes the difference…Men do a very, very careful evaluation of physicality…Men look at beauty in terms of genetic loading for fertility and health, although we’re not doing it consciously—because men almost never consciously want to have children. So it’s things like facial symmetry and glowing skin, signs of good health and the ability to carry a child, that translate to attractiveness for a male. Very primitive stuff.
Then he rates, on a scale from 1 – 10, how important the following things are to a man:
A fit body? A woman who works out?
Dr. Drew: That’s an 8.
A woman who doesn’t feel good about her body?
Dr. Drew: That’s up there in the turnoff category: 7 or 8.
Read the full article here.
Now, I ask you. . . Is there an oxy-moron here? We must have a fit body, facial symmetry, glowing skin, signs of good health and the ability to carry a child. And, if we don’t measure up, God help us if we show any signs of not feeling good about that!
How do you feel the media has influenced the bedroom? We’d love to know, so please comment!
And please check back next Monday for: Women’s Love/Hate Relationship with the Media Part 4 – The Mirror.
